Here at the DUI Foundation, we’re excited to partner with Carrie Armstrong, with the How To Be A Sober Girl blog. You can check out her blog here. Over the next thirty days, she has committed to a How To Be A Sober Girl 30 Day Kickstart campaign and we’ll be sharing her stories right here.

And without any more time, here’s Day Twenty Eight:

Because we bloody love a good count, don’t we? Especially if the number can also be used as a Big Stick to beat ourselves up with.

These are the most common ones:

  • Age. We love to beat ourselves up over how old we are getting and how little we have achieved compared to younger, seemingly more together folk who didn’t dedicated their lives to alcohol abuse. You won’t win this one. So my advice is to stop referring to your age altogether. Stop talking about it. Stop thinking about it. Make the decision to be ageless. Take all age-related preconceptions off the table. Kick them out of your beleif-system and watch how filed with relief you feel. It’s one of the mos liberating things I have ever done.
  • Time. We love to spend hours in regret over the wasted years we drank. So what if we did? Even if we’d spent those years sober and totally immersed in a great life, those times would still be over and long gone. The past is gone. It is done with, forever. Who cares what we did with it. The only time we have is the time we are sat in right now and the plans we can make for the future. We are all on an even keel when i comes to the past. Doesn’t matter how rich or healthy or wise or saintly we are: none of us can get the past back. Forget all of it and stop carrying ime around like it’s a suitcase filled with rocks. Leave it b y the side of he road and continue on your journey without it.
  • Days. We love to obsess over how many days we have been without a drink. Wanting to speed time and up fast forward our precious now so we can feel like we have more sober “days” under our belt. I’d personally rather have a slower now than a speeded up life i miss out on just so I can beat a stupid personal best non-drinking record. Those sober days really mean nothing in the end if we don’t have any content to fill them with. Life is not a calendar.

That’s enough for now really but there is always more. Basically as many numbers as we can remove from our lives that we try to define ourselves with makes sober life a breeze. Yes, even dress sizes. Delete the numbers and see how instantly free you feel and become,

Carrie x